THE LADY AND HER LORD

I chanced upon Bishop T.D.Jakes book; The Lady, Her Lover, and Her Lord. At first glance, I knew i had to get the book. I don't know if it was the packaging or the title. After I bought it and took it home, I was convinced it was the title...."what about the title", you may ask. Well, I think the "LOVER" part did the trick. I was curious, I wanted to know what lover in this context meant. If it was the kind of lover I had in mind or probably something else... It actually took me about three months to start reading the book and when I finally did, I hated myself for not reading it earlier! Lord! Ok, so I'm sure you'll be wondering, "What at all did you find in the book"? Before, I go any further, let me share a little......

"When a lady has a lover, her eyes sparkle, her smile is bright, and her voice is calm and passionate. With her lover at her side, her heart is peaceful, for she feels secure and can close her eyes and rest her head on his shoulder.

But, in the stillness of the night, when he has gone to sleep and there are pending issues on her mind, it is her Lord who works the night shift and watches over her in the dark. He is the one whom she can talk to when her words cannot describe what she is feeling. Her husband may understand what she says, but her Lord understands what she feels" Pg5

After reading that piece, I finally understood why women should not use marriage as an escape from reality. Until, you have a personal relationship with yourself and with your Father in Heaven, you cannot have a successful relationship with your husband. Your husband might be head over heels in love with you. He might be the one who puts you on cloud nine. That intense feeling of Love....You know when you wake up first thing in the morning and he's the first thing you think about? Your heart skips a beat when you see him and he smiles your way...Sometimes, the world feels too small for you two, because, your Love keeps growing bigger and bigger and bigger! But, all these will be USELESS, if a woman does not have a personal relationship with God. God works the night shift when your husband is busily snoring his head off. Late in the night, when a woman wakes up and battles with her inner self, her choices and what the future holds for her, she needs something more than the rhythms of love she shares with her husband. She needs a touch which is not only masculine, but comforting, soothing and one which knows what she doesn't. At that solemn moment, she needs an ear which will not only hear her pour out how she feels and what is going on in her inside, because, she won't even be in the position to talk. All she needs is someone who understands how she feels without her uttering a word.

For every woman, this feeling is inevitable and it takes a woman who has built a personal relationship God and herself and finally her husband, to withstand. Your husband can never take up God's role neither can he take up that personal relationship with "yourself".

Part 1